The Rubesletter by Matt Ruby ๐Ÿ’Ž

The Rubesletter by Matt Ruby ๐Ÿ’Ž

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Dating is broken. Two old books can solve it.

Dating is broken. Two old books can solve it.

How two books from 2005 are the answer to modern dating woes.

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Aug 01, 2025
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Everyone agrees: Modern dating sucks.

But what if I told you there were two books โ€“ both published 20 years ago โ€“ that could solve our romantic woes? One works for frustrated women and the other is for inceโ€“ er, dissatisfied men. And honestly, you donโ€™t even need to read โ€˜em. Iโ€™ll explainโ€ฆ

Why I Hate Dating And How To Have A Good Date
Illustration by Vesna Asanovic

Hey ladies!

Iโ€™m targeting the message of this first one to single women.

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For ladies, dating life these days is all about red flags and icks. Typical toxicity topics: Men are undateable, donโ€™t know how to text, write awful dating profiles (ugh, fish pics), and are creeps who frequently turn out to be stalkers or worse. Dating apps may give you tons of options, but they all suck.

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So whatโ€™s a gal to do?

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